There was nothing LUCKY about it


By Morag Barrett on April 24, 2012

Posted by Morag Barrett | April 24, 2012There was nothing LUCKY about itI recently came across a great blog post on FastCompany that talked about successful women and the stereotypes and labels that can be applied to successful women. I have shared the post in a number of forums, and it has generated several comments and posts.While the article shares a few recommendations on how to avoid the stereotype labels or behaviors that can undermine success this is sometimes easier said than done, as I personally experienced this week.On Monday I was launching a women’s mentoring program and at one point heard myself say“I was lucky enough to be asked to join the bank’s accelerated management program”…I caught myself in that moment and corrected my comment to“I was asked to join the bank’s accelerated management program.  There was no luck involved, I worked hard to join that program.”In that simple statement I had demonstrated how we can sometime undermine and diminish our own success. I remember a manager of mine, early in my career who pointed out that I had a tendency to apologize (frequently):If we were passing in the corridor and we had to move to pass each other I would say “I’m sorry”If I was assigned a new project for the first time I would say “I’m sorry” and apologize for not being an expertThe phrase was an unconscious habit, and one that he rightfully corrected me of.  When I became a Bank Manager (one of the youngest in the region as a result of successfully completing the accelerated management program) I remember that my cashiers (tellers) would sometimes describe their role as“I’m just a cashier”“I’m only part-time”I would correct them… they were not ‘just a cashier’ or only a part-time member of the team, they were the face of the bank. For most of our customers the ONLY human interaction they had.  The customer’s experience of the service they received, the bank’s reputation in our community, was ALL down to them, they were a critical member of the team, we wouldn’t have been able to operate without them.How many times do you find yourself diminishing your own achievements or contributions with “oh it was nothing” or other limiting statements?  What examples do you have?We all need to stand tall and be proud of our achievements and the contribution we bring to every aspect of our lives.  If we can’t do that, how can we expect others to appreciate and recognize our contributions?Related Articles Share
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