Cultivating Winning Relationships

By Morag Barrett on March 27, 2012

Posted by Morag Barrett | March 27, 2012Cultivating Winning RelationshipsWe’ve all worked with people that we dislike or find irritating and frustrating to be with.  The person whose ego is so large the office has to install double doors to get their head through, the colleague who just can’t stop talking; about anything but work, the colleague who carries the weight of the world on their shoulders and is wallowing in the pain and seeks to share their complaints with any and all.In Good Boss, Bad Boss and the No Asshole Rule, Robert Sutton says “there are always other people, be they relatives, neighbors or coworkers who we are at risk of tangling with”. One approach to managing this situation might be to avoid these people at all costs, however in the working environment this will likely prove difficult if not impossible.  What if this person is your boss, your peer, a coworker on a project.  You are going to be spending a considerable amount of your time in meetings with them, your success is dependant on their contribution, input and interwoven with their own success.Working with people who drive you nuts is exhausting, and can, unfortunately, impact your attitude and performance.  Emotions are infectious, Daniel Goleman likens them to a virus, that can infect a room, a team or an organization.  Think about it, you’ve no doubt heard the phrase ‘cut the atmosphere with a knife’ where you have walked into a room, and without talking to anyone just known that something was up?  This is an example of how our emotional intelligence picks up on these clues and our individual self-awareness to even notice.  How we respond in the moment and the impact we have on others is where self-management and the social competencies of emotional intelligence come into play.Working with colleagues who drain your enthusiasm for work, that cause you to hesitate before reaching out, impact not just your own success but ultimately slows down the information flow, decision-making and success of the organization as a whole.  Performance suffers, employee engagement falls (who wants to work in a toxic work environment?) and ultimately we start to see employees exiting the organization, and it is usually your high performers who choose to leave the company first.Cultivating Winning Relationships™ is about finding a way to work effectively with the people you like and the people you dislike, helping you to frame the relationship in a way that allows you to take ownership and control, rather than being a victim and reacting to a trigger that results in less than optimal performance.To learn more, order your copy of Cultivate.The Power of Winning Relationships today!Related ArticlesTags »Cultivating Winning Relationshipsleadership development denverleadership training coloradomanagementteam building coloradoteam building denverTrust Share
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